As I said in my last post, I questioned why people chose to wait before they were married to have sex. Writing this post is a struggle for me because it's Ash Wednesday and I am a Catholic and perhaps I should be one of those people that sticks up for this rule, but I just can't bring myself to do it.
I think no sex before marriage is completely ridiculous and I think the rule is certainly placed upon women much more than it is upon men. Let me be honest... I did NOT wait and I never intended to. My parents though I should; we briefly spoke of it as I was growing up. My parents wanted to believe I was a virgin and my mom and I even had a cryptic conversation about it when I was 25 in which she asked me without really wanting to know and I let her believe what she wanted to believe.
I never carelessly slept around. I was sober, safe, and smart about who I slept with and while of my 10, I wish I could take back 2, it isn't because of morality that I wish I could remove them from my past, it is simply because they were bad in bed. I think women who wait till they get married are depriving themselves of figuring out their sexual selves--what they need and want in the bedroom and how and what they like regarding men and sex. Sex is NOT the only important part of a relationship, but it is a big part of a healthy relationship, and women must know themselves sexually in order to truly enjoy the sexual part of their lives.
Doesn't this so-called "religious rule" hinder women from understanding their sexual selves, learning about their own bodies, and putting themselves first so they know what they do and don't like?
What do you think?
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