I am not judging, well maybe just a little bit. I did a small amount of research before I wrote this post and I see that one of the passages, Corinithians 7:2, expresses that having sex before marriage is immoral and we should abstain from immorality. I was born and raised a staunch Catholic and my parents (especially my father) expected me to wait till marriage when the topic was raised, however, I knew that I would never be one of those people that would wait till I got married and I have always been curious about those people that do.
I know two people in my life currently who have waited--one girl became a born again Christian of sorts for 5 years, waited to sleep with her husband till marriage, married too young and realized VERY quickly that they weren't compatible in the bedroom and she has since engaged in an adulturous relationship. Her husband does not know about it, but they both agree that they will teach their own children NOT to wait till marriage.
I am acquaintances with another 23 yr. old Christian girl, virgin who swears that she wants to remain "pure," however she once told me about a weird dream that she had recently and she said, "I am always a whore in my dreams." This leads me to believe that she probably wants to be a "whore" in real life as well (when I use this word, I am referring to having sex with someone you care about in a passionate fashion).
These are two drastically different situations--the first who optimistically thought they were doing the right thing and regret their choice now, and the second who still thinks she is making the right decision.
Before I rant about how I feel on this topic, I ask you to please explain your rationale for this decision if you have made it in your life or if you are considering doing so.
Personally, I have been raised in an orthodox family with strong values and morals. I was taken to church twice a week and I was told from a very young age that I should wait. Although priests in my religion tend to sound quite strict and judgemental, my parents never told me to wait until marriage. They simply advised me to wait until I was mature enough to do it and not to give it away to anybody. Now, how I lost is another story. I was however proud of myself, being one of the few almost 20-year-old girls who was still a virgin while others around me were literally whoring around me since they were 15.
ReplyDeleteBut I don't judge anybody. I simply think that especially as a woman, because we tend to get attached maybe easier than men, it's better to wait for the moment when you feel prepared.
Also, I believe one should be in a relationship, because in my opinion, once you start having sex, you always have needs. While if you never tried it, there's nothing to miss. So I guess what I am saying is that personally I think it shouldn't be done just for the sake of it, like I see so many teenagers doing these days.
AMEN! You are so right. I lost my virginity to a wonderful guy who was a tad older than me and waited 9 months for me to engage in "my first time." It was great and I always appreciate that I waited and did it with the right person. Thanks for the comment!
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