A BJ a Day Goes Both Ways

3/2010 Part II

For all you men out there who just got excited that I told your girlfriends to give you lots of blowjobs, don't forget that this, like everything else in relationships, goes both ways.

No matter how much a woman says she is fine with giving and not receiving, she is lying. Find a way to get the job done faster and frequently. It's true that men tend to climax faster and that women need more time, stress-free environments, maybe some toys or porn, the list goes on. If you take the time to figure out what she likes and to create an environment that she feels relaxed in, the job will be that much quicker and easier. The most important thing for a woman is to know that it is okay to let go and relax, and she needs to be turned on enough to forget about work, kids, bitchy friends etc.

It's a Numbers Game:
I have had experiences with men who can take up to 6-10 mins to climax from a blow job and with other men who get off in a minute. Obviously, I am much more willing to give a blowjob to someone who gets off fast, and more importantly to someone who is appreciative and gives me lots of compliments. If you want your girl to want to give you head, you have to praise her for a job well done.

If you happen to be with a girl like me who needs the moon and stars to align in order to get off in under 20 minutes, you may not be able to reward her with an orgasm every time she gives you one. In this case, you should do it every 3rd or 4th time she gives you a blow job.

Below is the equation for blow job frequency:

short time guy (under 5 mintues) + longer time girl (20+ mins)= 3:1 ratio
short guy + short girl =1:1
long  guy + short girl= 1:3
long  guy + long girl= quickies daily and oral sex on weekends

Don't hold out! If you want daily blow jobs, get off fast. Women have a lot on their plates and cannot give up 15 minutes every morning to give a blowjob, but they would be more than happy to do it in under 5 if it meant that a happy, healthy relationship would result from it.

And, ladies if you disagree with any of this, please comment, but if you simply don't like giving blow jobs, get on the blow job bandwagon! Or, don't expect to get oral sex in return and you shouldn't deprive yourself of oral sex, so this second option is really just out of the question. Oral sex is a great way to relax your mind and body and selfishly enjoy being pleasured. It is the perfect way to start or end a sex session, to start or end your day, and pretty much any other time in between.

All this oral sex talk though is all reliant on the fact that you are in a sexually healthy relationship where you and your partner are open about pleasuring each other. Receiving oral sex from someone who you aren't connecting with physically is not a good time.

Tune into next blog... Get onto the Blowjob Bandwagon.